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Have you ever had a day when your shy bladder seemed much better…

Only to struggle again the next day?

If so, you’re not alone.

One of the easiest traps to fall into is believing that a difficult day means you’ve lost all your progress.

I used to think that too.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my grandson, who’s learning to walk.

He falls down all the time.

But he never seems to think, “I’m going backwards.”

He doesn’t compare himself to other toddlers.

He doesn’t judge himself.

He simply gets back up and takes another step.

I think there’s something we can learn from that.

Improvement in almost anything isn’t a straight line.

Learning to walk.

Learning to swim.

Starting a business.

Learning a new job.

Recovering from an injury.

There are good days and there are more difficult days.

Why should recovering from shy bladder syndrome (paruresis) be any different?

Sometimes what makes a difficult day even harder is the meaning we give it.

We tell ourselves:

• I’ve lost all my progress.
• I’m back where I started.
• I’ll never get there.

Before we know it, one difficult day has become a story about our future.

The difficult day is real.

But the story we tell ourselves about it doesn’t have to be.

If today was one of those difficult days for you, I hope you’ll remember this:

One difficult day doesn’t erase the progress you’ve already made.

Get back up.

Take the next step.

That’s how progress is made.