About
I Know What It’s Like to Organize Your Life Around Bathrooms.
For more than 50 years, I lived with shy bladder syndrome, also known as paruresis.
Like many people, I quietly organized my life around bathrooms. I avoided situations, turned down opportunities, and spent an incredible amount of mental energy managing something that very few people understood.
On the outside, life looked successful. I was a competitive swimmer, business owner, sales leader, consultant, and coach. I spent decades working in high-pressure environments where confidence and performance were expected.
On the inside, I was carrying an invisible struggle that shaped far more of my life than anyone realized.
My journey with shy bladder eventually led me to experience periods of chronic anxiety and pain, and to ask a question that would ultimately change my life:
Why does our experience sometimes feel so real, even when nothing outside us has changed?
The answer wasn’t another coping strategy or a better technique.
It was a fundamentally different understanding of how our experience is created.
That understanding didn’t just help me recover from shy bladder syndrome. It transformed the way I experience pressure, anxiety, and everyday life.
Today, helping others discover that same freedom has become my life’s work.
My Approach
I believe practical strategies like graduated exposure can be helpful.
But lasting freedom comes from something deeper than technique alone.
My coaching combines practical recovery strategies with a deeper understanding of anxiety, pressure, and human experience. As people begin to see their experience differently, they often find the struggle itself starts to lose its grip.
The result isn’t simply better restroom experiences.
It’s greater freedom to live your life.
Why People Work With Me
People work with me because I’ve walked this path myself.
They know they’re talking with someone who truly understands what they’re experiencing.
Today, I’m grateful to serve as:
- Author of Feeling the Flow: Creating Freedom from Shy Bladder Syndrome
- Board Member of the International Paruresis Association
- Shy Bladder Center Coach
- Speaker, coach, and advocate for people living with invisible struggles
More important than any title or credential, I understand what it’s like to wonder if life will always be limited by shy bladder.
I also know it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Beyond Shy Bladder
While my primary focus is helping people create freedom from shy bladder syndrome, I also work with individuals navigating anxiety, performance pressure, leadership challenges, and major life transitions.
The common thread is never the circumstance itself.
It’s helping people reconnect with the clarity, resilience, and confidence that have been there all along.
Let’s Talk
If something you’ve read here resonates with you, I’d love to have a conversation.
You don’t have to figure it out alone.
